Arranged marriages in India have been becoming a debatable subject. Some of the youth of India have been trying to fight these arranged marriages for years now. Others Indians enjoy them because they do not have to worry about relationships for the future; they are set and ready to go. Indian marriages that are arranged are described as a commitment. They believe that the feelings eventually develop while Americans base their marriages on feelings. The Indians feel that the feelings will begin to wane awhile, after they get married, if they base it on the American's way of dating and marriage. Many people like to think arranged marriages are forced marriages, where they meet each other on the wedding day. In this case, that is not correct. They get the opportunity to meet each other and decide if the relationship could or would go farther. India has only 2% of divorce in their population while in other parts of the world the amount of people getting divorced within their population is 50%. This shows that the Indians are holding close to their commitment to the unity of the other person.
I chose this topic on Indian dating because I thought it would be fun to learn about. I thought there was a lot more to Indian marriages and that is why I choose it. Before I thought that the Indian people met their spouse on the wedding day but I learned that they have an opportunity to meet eachother before the wedding. I guess I was blind sited by the word arranged. I also learned that a lot more people are getting divorced here rather than India so that shows there tradition is functioning correctly. This topic was interesting to learn about piece by piece.
Looking at the face on this Indian women, it looks as if she is excited and happy to get married.
Men wear kafnis- a long shirt going all the way down to their knees and pijamos- leggings (a tight spandex that covers the leg) or dhotis- a long dress pant to their weddings.
Amrita Bhakti: Mother of Lalita Bhakti an is forcing her daughter to have an arranged marriage.
Lalita Bhakti: Daughter of Amrita Bhakti and does not want to have an arranged marriage.
Isha Kamboja: The man Lalita talks about after school and the one Lalita get married to, surprisingly.
*Lalita comes home from school and tells her mom about this boy at school.
Amrita: How was your day at school today, honey?
Lalita: Mom it was great. I met this boy at school today that picked up my books when I dropped them!
Amrita: You know my rules about dating and marriage, right Lalita?
Lalita: Mom you do not have to tell me them all of the time. I know that I am getting an arranged marriage but I think that it would be cool to explore the American way of love.
Amrita: Oh dear, you must not think like that. We stick to our tradition and our tradition only.
Lalita: I am getting older now mom. I think that I should be able to make my own choices.
Amrita: But this is our way of life. In the Hindu religion thier are generally arranged marriages. Plus you will always get the oppotunity to meet the man we choose for you before the wedidng and to decide if the relationship will go any farther.
Lalita: Mom, I know the rules of arranged marriages but I think I'm falling in love with that boy at school. I will just go by our ways anyways because that is what we believe in.
*A few years later after middle school, Amrita gives Lalita the choice to meet the person she will marry in her arranged marriage
Amrita: Honey, would you like to meet the man we found for your arranged marriage?
Lalita: Oh, yes. This would bring great joy to my heart to see who I will marry
*Amrita brings out the guy Lalita was talking about that one day after school.
Lalita: Is that you Isha.
Amrita: You know Isha.
Isha: Oh, thought I would never see you again Lalita.
Amrita: I am so confused.
Lalita: Mom this is the boy that I talked to after school about that one year.
Amrita: Well, I guess you got your wish Lalita.
This video shows an Indian women getting ready for her wedding ceremony and then the two getting married. This seems very traditional so I guess the Indians are holding very close to their traditions.
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